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Friends and peer pressure

Friends matter more as you grow up. Learn what makes a good friendship, how to handle peer pressure, and how to say no and still feel confident.

Friendships are changing

As you grow, friends often become more important. You may want to spend more time with them and care more about what they think.

Friendships also change. You may drift from old friends and make new ones. This is normal, even if it hurts sometimes.

What a good friend looks like

A good friend listens, is kind, keeps your private things private, and respects your choices.

A friend who often puts you down, leaves you out on purpose, pressures you or shares your secrets may not be good for you.

You deserve friends who make you feel good about yourself.

Peer pressure

Peer pressure is when people your age push you to do something. It can be positive, like encouraging you to join a sports team, or negative, like daring you to bunk class, tease someone, or try tobacco or alcohol.

It can be loud, like a dare, or quiet, like feeling you must have the same phone or clothes as everyone else.

How to say no

Say no clearly and simply: No thanks, that is not for me. You do not need a long reason.

Use an excuse if it helps: My parents will check, or I have tuition. Suggest something else to do, or walk away.

Stick with friends who share your values. Real friends will respect your no.

Key points

  • Friendships change as you grow, and that is normal.
  • Good friends are kind, respectful and trustworthy.
  • Peer pressure can be positive or negative.
  • A short, clear no is enough. Real friends respect it.

Myth or fact?

Myth

Everyone else is doing it.

Fact

Usually far fewer people are doing risky things than it seems. Many are just going along quietly.

Myth

Saying no will make you lose all your friends.

Fact

People often respect someone who knows their own mind. Friends worth keeping will stay.

When to get help

  • Talk to a trusted adult if friends are pressuring you to do something unsafe.
  • If you are being bullied or left out on purpose, tell a teacher or parent.
  • If you feel unsafe, call Childline on 1098.
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Check what you know

Question 1

1.Which is a sign of a good friend?

Question 2

2.Friends dare you to bunk class. What is a confident response?

Question 3

3.Can peer pressure ever be positive?

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Based on guidance from UNICEF, WHO, UNESCO International Technical Guidance on Sexuality Education. Awaiting review by Puberty Lab's clinical advisory board. General education, not medical advice for any one person.

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